Be where you are.
We have a very concrete idea of what success is in our society. Success is more money, a better job, more degrees, a bigger house, a nicer car – the next bigger, better thing. If you aren’t moving up you are going nowhere. How can we ever feel good about ourselves if success means the constant need to achieve?
The key to true success in life is not in the world ‘out there’ – it is inside. It is the ability to be where you are; to appreciate yourself no matter your external achievements. If you can do that, then you can go anywhere, do anything, the possibilities are endless! You may say to yourself, “well I am a confident person and I am proud of where I am.” My question to you is – have you ever thought to yourself, “I just need to get a promotion or a raise, then I can …” or “once I get this degree or certification, then I will …” If so, then you are not being where you are. Anytime your focus in on an external achievement, you are looking in the wrong place. In order to truly achieve to your full potential you have to shift the focus inward; you have to appreciate yourself for who you are in that moment.
We are all constantly expanding and growing – it is a natural law hardwired into all of us. If we understand this, then there is no longer a need to achieve in the way we are conditioned to. At any given point in time you can look at yourself and say, “I am in the perfect place and I look forward to where I am headed next” rather than “I will be happy when…” It becomes about the experience and not the end result.
What a big difference a small shift in perspective makes! Think about this for a minute. When you are focused on “I will be happy when”, but as a human being you are continuously growing and evolving – when will you ever been happy? As soon as you achieve something, it is time to move on to the next thing, then the next, because that is what you are meant to do! But, if your happiness and success are tied to the next thing, you can never appreciate where you are. You will always feel like you need to achieve the next thing in order to be successful.
So take control over your own success and happiness! Shift your perspective today and be where you are. A good way to do this is to keep an appreciation journal. Each night write down a few things you accomplished or appreciated about your day. Be proud of those things for what they are and then prepare to be amazed as more of these things pop into your life as if by magic!
Enjoy your journey, love yourself, appreciate every accomplishment on the way to reaching your goals and you will have all of the success in the world.